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Tried my hand in watercolor painting lately. This is the first one I did in real watercolor paper.  Looks bad (I did that purple thing in the middle all wrong) but…let the learning curve begin!


white Christmas

December 31, 2015 § Leave a comment

Don’t have much time to narrate my December this year (as work is already waiting for me to narrate as well), but I’ll try to do that in a few pictures.

10345821_10153399911853282_7751413567684042157_nFirst of all, I was lucky to witness my one and only Kuya Raffy  (*tears of joy*) marry Ate Jam <3

1930492_10205516292651834_3617148227565685470_nand I got to be bridesmaid, while my shoulders were frozen to death in the chilly LA air

image-e9f4a4ffd84d2eb49bad9b8d66f0954f68de5a9c2768a09fce86113f1fe1f1bf-Vmy good-looking cousin, Josh, was the bible bearer, while his uber cutie brother, Justin, was the ring bearer (Tita Shirley was a godparent)

IMG_2899went on a 5-hour drive with Tita Wowie, Uncle Edwin, Erin and Erika from Arcadia, CA to Sequoia National Park

IMG_2848rainbow pass  (I think we saw 10 rainbows during that drive ,by far the most in any single trip I’ve ever seen) while driving through stretches of almonds and oranges surviving the Californian drought

IMG_2990and woke up to this beautiful white Christmas scenery

IMG_3018my beautiful cousin, Erin, enjoying a light snow fall

IMG_2967and her adorable sister, Erika (snow tubing)


IMG_3059made my first snowman with Erika and Erin

IMG_3095t’was the night before Christmas

IMG_29705 layers of shirts and 2 layers of pants after (plus breakfast, lunch and dinner buffets – god help me lose all of this before Valentine’s at least haha)

IMG_3107in the land of the giant trees, sequoias (with trunks as wide as 30 ft and as high as 400 ft, some of these trees have lived for more than 4000 years)

IMG_3159welcomed by the warm Kok family :)

IMG_3245Christmas morning

IMG_3259my grandma, Mommy Auring

IMG_3255morning in Arcadia


If I could fill this post with pictures of Josh, Justin, Erin and Erika – I would have, because this vacation has been mostly about them.  I loved the time I spent with my younger cousins, and my only wish is that they remember me as they grow up.  This was my first Christmas away from Ama and Gab, but it was a Christmas well spent with my family in the other side of the globe.

Other things worth remembering but will not expound as of now

  1. married life of my aunts
  2. jogging conversation with Kuya Alex
  3. life abroad
  4. that one should not sit on the snow for an extended amount of time without proper insulation
  5. I should really start writing real letters again

November 29, 2015 § Leave a comment

Your past is beautiful where it belongs. In your past.

– Sayan Sen

so many things

November 23, 2015 § Leave a comment

So many letters were started, unfinished, and trashed.  So many tears were cried, wiped and left to dry on linens unwashed.  So many questions were asked, unanswered and left to rot in the past.  So many memories were relived, silently recounted, and pushed away until I forgot.  So many days were wasted on the bed, still and not moving.  So many nights were watched, by a girl awake through her window glass.

You left in haste that you forgot – so many things.





November 20, 2015 § 1 Comment

Was looking over my email drafts in my phone, and on the bottom of the list was an unsent one to my mom.



November 11, 2015 § 2 Comments

I owe to my closest friend here in Singapore the privilege of knowing a great set of women.  They’ve been nothing but wonderful, warm, helpful people in my life here and I truly never did anything to deserve their kindness.  That’s why I felt really grateful and excited for their invitation to their important celebration of Deepavali/Diwali. :) I started the day by doing the assignment Swati left me in my room – which was to light up pretty & petite (sounds like you, Crabby) candles she got me from Little India.  As I only had a lighter and the wick was short in height, I couldn’t get past lighting one candle without burning my thumb.  I then had the stupid idea of twisting a piece of paper and lighting that instead so I could reach the wicks easier, and in no time soot and smoke was rising from my little Diwali celebration by the window.  I rushed to light all four and ran to the sink to extinguish the unflattering evidence of my intellect and sighed thankfully that the alarm didn’t go off.  After taking a picture and sending it to my gracious hosts, I blew off the flames to save the little pots, as well as the chance of setting anything else on fire.


Diwali, to Hindus, is I believe Christmas/Easter to Catholics.  It is a celebration of lights, a day representing the triumph of good over evil or light over darkness.  In fact according to them, Diwali has a lot of different historical references depending on which region it is celebrated.  For fast inculcation, there is always Wikipedia, so I’ll write instead about what I learned from my friends.  I found out that the celebration today is for South Indians, but North Indians celebrate their Diwali the day after.  Everybody is supposed to dress in their best, and for us ladies this means having to wear sarees!  This was probably what I anticipated most about that day apart from the food, as Swati has always been on my case to wear a saree – finally fulfilled that, Crabby!  It was my first time to wear a saree and Divya N. lent me hers while Lakshmi helped me put it on (in fact she helped everyone and herself included; she’s a saree expert tyvm).  The dress was really beautiful but as Divya N. was clearly several sizes smaller than me, I had to keep my breath in until the entire thing was over.  Divya R. volunteered to put on eyeliner on me and since I don’t dare put that on myself most days, I happily agreed.  She was after all the head artist of the rangoli (something like sand art) they made for today.  I always feel weird when I see myself with eyeliner though.  The fact that it appears to make everyone else prettier but me puzzles me.  I think it makes me look older.


Divya’s welcome rangoli by their door


helping out in making a peacock rangoli


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first time wearing a saree

The celebration starts with a prayer, which was led by my good friend, Swati.  Forgive me for not being able to explain this part properly as it was largely done in Hindi.  After the prayers was my favorite part – the singing.  Listening to all of them sing was quite mesmerizing.  I’m not saying this as a form of flattery, but while I’ve never taken a keen liking on Hindi songs previously, watching people I am friends with and who I converse with in English sing in a uniquely different way and language was something quite tantalizing.  I told me Indian men probably fall in love with them even more once they sing – all of them had wonderful voices.

DSC_2328-01our beautiful priestess that night


Lakshmi, Divya R. and Swati singing


the sultry photographer, Jyothsna


with Divya N. who is rocking a Halle Berry look with her new haircut

After the prayers, Guang Rong and I who were the only non-indian attendees of the event, were served with really delicious indian dishes prepared by Swati.  I had jeera rice (pulao with cumin seeds), raita (grated cucumber in curd), and paneer (cottage cheese curry) and I loved every single dish.  I can’t even pick a favorite because they were all equally good.  I had 2 servings of everything whereas Guang Rong didn’t even finish his first plate. I’m sure Swati is quite pleased with my loyal friendship. :D  They also made date milkshake which tasted…interestingly like dates.


the delicious dishes prepared by master chef Swati with the help of Lakshmi and the two Divyas

The night was capped off with lots of picture taking along with laughter and conversation.  It was truly a warm experience for me being welcomed into a new culture with such inclusion.  And just like other holidays, after this carefree night, it’s back to the daily grind of labbing for all of us.  What I really appreciate in being with these girls is that while I am well aware that every single one of them are far from having it easy in their daily lives, you will rarely feel that when they talk to you.  In addition, as I imagined Diwali was an important celebration for them, I could only guess how much homesick they were.  Christmas in Singapore – I can’t even.  They are simply brimming with kindness, generosity, genteelness and most importantly awesomeness at feigning appreciation of my humor (lol).  But sincerely now, thank you again Swati, Divya, Divya, Lakshmi & Jyothsna for hosting me in your thanksgiving festival. :)


Divya R. feeding me, as always :D – my PCR teacher, Swati’s “mommy” here & many more


with my amazing Crabby Pattie


Jyothsna, my brownie homie! how can beauty, wisdom and humor be all squeezed in into this girl?


Divya N., when I say she’s like Halle Berry, I don’t just mean the looks but also the attitude – smart, sweetness and spunk. Lakshmi, we would all not be wearing the saree properly without her. I only got to know her recently but she is a sweet, hardworking mom who is also doing her PhD – talk about awesome.




wearing Inay’s gold bangle from India :’)

Please indulge us on the self-portraits, because on most days we look like this.


Wine and brownie night with Swati and the two Divyas to wash the blues away.  This was a day after my birthday this year.


“Don’t hold together what must fall apart. The familiar life crumbles so the new life can begin.” – Bryant McGill

white flag

September 27, 2015 § Leave a comment

I closed my eyes shut, and the absoluteness of darkness engulfed me. I was too tired to think whether this is my own doing, yours or ours. The memory of you telling me that last time it was because “you (and her) always had arguments” keeps on coming back to me. Maybe you love me less anyway by this time because I’m always the one with a problem. The devil in me retorts with a “how would you know if he loves you, he rarely lets you know”. But my angel tenderly calms it with an “it’s okay, it doesn’t matter now.” “Nothing does”, I tell them both.

I’ve been seeing this coming. On those lonely nights that I watched you sleep with your back on me. And in those times I sat across you midway through a meal, looking at a different direction because you chose to look otherwise anyway. Those times that I wrote you a letter, just to toss in the sealed envelope to the bin. “He won’t like it, don’t be mushy”, I reprimand myself. I tried to learn the art of self-regulation for you. And in no time I resorted to taking screenshots every time I came across romantic quotes that gripped my soul.  Screenshots that I wanted to send to you, but will just pile up in the limbo of my phone.  I tried to maintain the distance you wanted, but it left me lost as to why I couldn’t go closer. Is this still love? Because the only way i know is way past this border. I sneaked in sometimes in defiance, like a refugee or an illegal immigrant.  Seeking mercy or daring to show bravery.  And after what I had wanted to do, I returned back into my boundary voluntarily. Sometimes, you sent me back. I followed like an obedient dog, ready to do anything in want of your favor.

In your defense, you were nice. You were really nice. I fell in love with you because of that.  You took me places, gave me kisses, and took me inside your world. But it wasn’t enough for me. I needed your heart and soul. I needed to know that you loved me and why you loved me. I needed unexpected hugs from behind and handwritten letters scribbled in the dead of the night. I needed to know that I matter.  If this is too much, then I am guilty. I am fully guilty of not knowing what a proper relationship is.  I am impractical in a brutally practical world.  And if this is all there is to what I thought love would be, then I am admittedly ill-equipped.

 I lost this battle.  And you just let me.

quick escape back home

July 23, 2015 § Leave a comment

Tired of the usual Batangas trip as one of the nearest options from Manila, I decided to explore the things to do in the Laguna and Quezon area.  This was the first trip for leisure that we took as a family ever since Inay passed away.  And since the task of planning itineraries for family trips was always done by our mom, this time I had to do it.

Upon picking me up from the airport, Mamow, Fubz and I headed straight to our accommodation in San Pablo (Laguna) – known for its seven lakes.  I chose our hotel from Google Maps because it was the only one sitting right beside a lake.

IMG_2222Tahanan ni Aling Meding


Tahanan ni Aling Meding is actually an ancestral home converted into a hotel because all but one of the 11 siiblings who funded it are based in the USA.  Instead of wasting away the property, they decided to have people rent it instead so that at least the maintenance cost for the place will be covered.  One of the owners, Mr. Wilson Borja, lives there and we had the pleasure of meeting him during our stay.  He told us about their family as well and how they all together migrated to San Francisco as a family back in the day.  I guess comparing other options in the area, this was the better choice.  But being a house to begin with, the facilities weren’t that great – specifically the low water pressure in the shower.  Breakfast was bare minimum also.  But the saving grace of the place is the really nice owner and staff, as well as the unobstructed view of Sampaloc lake (which wasn’t as good as I expected since they’ve been raising tilapia in the lake and the perimeter is congested with houses).  After dropping off our things, we headed to our first stop: Lake Pandin.

IMG_2224walking to Lake Pandin






Lake Pandin is one of the seven lakes in San Pablo, where they offer the option of having lunch on a bamboo raft.  It was a 15 minute drive from Tahanan.  The lake is not that big, but it was well maintained thanks to the cooperative of women operators who see to it that they keep the beauty of their surroundings.  We left our car in the parking lot and had to walk 15 minutes to reach the lake.  Upon reaching the main shore, we were greeted by the serene view of the lake.  Several bamboo rafts floated by the shore, and the local people politely invited us to take a seat as we waited for them to prepare our raft.  They move the bamboo rafts by pulling ropes they have tied from one end of the lake to the other.  At the opposite end of the lake, there is a grotto where a small spring also produces fresh water.  We we’re lucky as there was no one else when we arrived and so we had the lake to ourselves.  The food was also excellent provincial food – pako salad (my favorite!), ginataang small shrimps (really good except for the fact that the shrimp heads were scary to eat as I felt they might pierce my tongue or throat), and grilled tilapia (not a fan of tilapia, but I missed this).  The shrimps and tilapia are raised in Lake Pandin itself, but the pako is bought from the market.  People can also swim in the lake, but the water is cloudy and you can’t really see the bottom.  It was daunting to get in, but since my brother went in, I also followed suit.  I tried to placate my fears of suddenly getting attacked by some lake monster from below and lasted around 15 minutes in the water.     Ate and Kuya who manned our raft were also very pleasant, always reminding us to be careful of slipping in the bamboo raft, and not to swim too far out (as if I would even dare).  There was a cool breeze in the lake, and after an hour idling at the far end of the lake, we decided to go back to the hotel.  The rest of the afternoon was spent sleeping, and we had dinner at a nearby restaurant, Clyde & Josh Grill & Restaurant, which was also by the perimeter of Sampaloc Lake.  Since I missed gata a lot, we opted for ginataang kuhol, and this traditional ginataang tilapia recipe in the area which I forgot what they called.  We also had ensaladang talong and Gab wanted grilled squid.  The food was good and the staff were very polite.  We were the only ones again in the restaurant since we woke up late for dinner.  They closed soon after we left.  On the way home, I noticed that the area around the lake wasn’t that clean to be honest, owing to the fact that it was full of establishments and houses.  But it wasn’t that dirty either – signifying they’re probably implementing a cleanliness scheme which, although prevents total chaos, can be made better.  Gab ate balot on the way home.  I, on the other hand, waited until we reached the hotel wherein I ate a kilo of ripe mangoes by myself.  Philippine mango heaven. :3

The next day, we left around 9am for Tiaong, Quezon.  The goal was to go to Ugu Bigyan’s Secret Pottery Garden – a place my mother had always wanted to go to.






I had only ever heard of Ugu Bigyan from her, but apparently Ugu is a renowned potter.  The place lived up to its name of being “secret” as there was not a single sign pointing to it.  Thank goodness for Google Maps.  We reached Ugu Bigyan’s secret enclave after a two hour drive and we’re very much delighted at the beauty of the entire area.  There was something to adore in every little corner, and I especially loved the embedded ceramic fishes on the pavement.  Ugu Bigyan’s store was situated inside, and there we were greeted by Ugu’s sister, Heidi.  I bought a blue ceramic coaster for myself, while my brother got a mug.  Then we choose this pretty plate with fishes in memory of my mom.  After that, my dad suddenly went into a shopping spree for our relatives since it was very hard to go to Ugu’s place and the novelty and pride in owning an Ugu Bigyan piece was also something to take pride on.  It’s just tricky to know if people will appreciate it though since pottery can come across as something abstract and commonplace to some.  Especially if they’re not aware of how it’s made and how long it takes to make.  We got to see Mr. Ugu Bigyan himself on the way out as there was a delivery guy looking for him.

After Ugu Bigyan’s, I checked the map and suggested to my dad that we can either return the same way, or complete the circle around Mt. Banahaw and pass by Kamay ni Hesus on the way home.  There was also this dampa-style restaurant, Kamayan sa Palaisdaan, that I wanted to try near that area.  Since we weren’t rushing and everyone was in a mood for a road trip anyway, we took the longer route circling Mt. Banahaw.

IMG_2346Kamayan sa Palaisdaan – where I ate Pako salad once again


Gab, at the peak of Kamay ni Hesus – sadly, the place was too commercialized to be a sacred place.  It was more of a tourist place already.  

We passed along the main national highway for the most part of the trip, and the fact that it had one lane for each direction was both frustrating (traffic was a procession), but also a good deterrent from commercialization of the provincial beauty.  The lack of proper and correct road signs was completely annoying though.  There was one point we encountered a sign saying “to Manila”, and thanks to Google Maps (once again), I saw it led to Lipa which led even farther away.  We got home around 9 in the evening, and I was once again able to sleep in my own room.  The rest of my 5 day vacation was a whirlwind, and I left Manila missing my family even more.  Nevertheless, it was 5 days well spent with people who matter.

P.S. Oh, I should also mention here that since I took Tiger Air this time, which meant having to go to NAIA Terminal 1, we went into this place called Salem Complex where we found this carinderia which served lutong bahay food.  Since I wanted to eat vegetables, I opted for that rather than the other fastfood restaurants in the area.  I ate 4 pieces of tortang talong, bopis and tortang ampalaya – and my dad was rather happy that I ate a lot. haha.  Gab had grilled pusit again, it seems like he has a fixation for that these past few days.  We just paid 235 for 5 different viands – oh how I miss the cost of living in the Philippines.


July 11, 2015 § Leave a comment

Even before I read this work of Murakami, I had already been captivated by its content.


I bought this book on impulse almost, but not quite, a year ago.  It had to take a back seat while I was consumed with my exam, but I’ve finally taken the time to finish it.  The review of this book has been surprisingly mixed.  Only when I read it to the end did I understand why several of Murakami lovers have found this work deviant from his usual masterpieces.  To be honest, there were a lot of times I used speed reading just to get through some parts that were repetitive in content. Here are a few of the striking lines that I marked as I was reading.

And it was the kind of thing that loses the most important nuances when reduced to words. *

If you can love someone with your whole heart, even one person, then there’s salvation in life.  Even if you can’t get together with that person.

“In this world, there is no absolute good, no absolute evil,” the man said.  “Good and evil are not fixed, stable entities but are continually trading places. A good may be transformed into an evil in the next second. And vice versa…The most important thing is to maintain the balance between the constantly moving good and evil. If you lean too much in either direction, it becomes difficult to maintain actual morals. Indeed, balance itself is the good.

It is not that the meaning cannot be explained. But there are certain meanings that are lost forever the moment they are explained in words.*

People need things like that to go on living – mental landscapes that have meaning for them, even if they can’t explain them in words. Part of why we live is to come up with explanations for these things.

Maybe we shouldn’t meet again…Wasn’t it better if they kept this desire to see each other hidden within them, and never actually got together? That way, there would always be hope in their hearts. That hope would be a small, yet vital flame that warmed them to their core – a tiny flame to cup one’s hands around and protect from the wind, a flame that the violent winds of reality might easily extinguish.

I think that* about illustrates how repetitive it can get – although the fact that I underlined that thought every single time anyway symbolizes how much I agreed to it.  Nevertheless, it was a unique kind of fiction.  It didn’t fail to give that signature stillness that one gets whenever you read Murakami’s stories.  It unearthed new ways of looking at things, simplified complications and complicated simple things.  I felt the ending was abrupt and lacking, but I am still left with a marked impression of this alternate world that the story has weaved.  I would also have to consider that the repetition is part of the style of writing – something that the patient Japanese culture is familiar with.  In a very watered down description, it is a story of how love triumphs in the end against all odds.  However, Murakami gives that common theme more than just a twist.  He gave us Aomame and Tengo.


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